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Hello, beautiful woman and entrepreneur! This is Blair Rhianna and welcome to this episode of the Aligned Entrepreneur Podcast.
This is episode 5 so all the show notes as well as any links that I share can be found at blairrhianna.com/5.
Now, if you’ve spent any time on social media or just, you know, out in the world, you’ll know that manifesting is so hot right now. But what exactly is manifesting? How does it work? And most importantly, how can you make it work for you?
Well in today’s episode, I’m wanting to demystify the concept of manifesting and the law attraction and also explain exactly why all your positive thinking and affirmations are not producing the results you want in your life or business.
Sound useful? Let’s dive in…
One thing that I’ve noticed about the spiritual entrepreneur community is that often the language around manifestation, attraction and communing with the universe can often be a little wishy-washy. It gives the sense of these things being really mystical and esoteric and because of this, I see many people handing away their power, thinking that the universe, spirit, god, goddess, energy or whatever you want to call it, exists outside of themselves and therefore they, their business success and their lives are subject to those external forces.
Or on the other end of the spectrum, I see many people using the idea of manifestation and the law of attraction as a means of spiritual bypassing by thinking that if they just “think positive”, if they just “put it out there” then what they want will miraculously show up without them having to do the work to remove the internal emotional blockages and limiting beliefs that have prevented the thing they want being a natural part of their reality in the first place.
So in this episode, I want to take these concepts out of the ethereal realm and ground it into the practical realm to bridge the gap between spirituality and science so that you can really deepen your understanding of this area and place the power for your own success back in your own hands.
So…where do we even begin?
Well, if hang out on social media then you’ve probably seen plenty of social media memes and inspirational quotes using the phrase, “energy flows where intention goes”.
But what does this actually mean? Okay, to answer that, let’s talk science for a moment.
But before I do, if you don’t necessarily see yourself as a science-y person or your intimidated by it then please don’t be. I myself was truly never a science kinda girl. In fact, any mention of science or mathematics used to give me flashbacks of mental blanks and sweaty palms during my year 9 exams.
It was only until mid 20s when I began to work with these principles in my own life and I became a coach, mentor, kinesiologist and energy medicine practitioner working with over a hundred women that developed a very in-depth understanding of the female brain, our belief systems, our sabotages, our energy and our thought patterns. So neuroscience, neuroplasticity, belief systems, quantum physics, manifesting, they’re all huge passion areas of mine and I love to nerd out of this stuff but what I enjoy the most is making these ideas easy to understand and relevant to your life.
So you don’t have to consider yourself a science mind to understand these concepts, you just have to have a desire to expand your understanding and challenge your existing ideas which, if you’re in business, is something you’re regularly doing anyway. #steeplearningcurve am I right?
Okay, let’s break this down. In the past, much of our understanding of the world came from the old school classical physics way of thinking that argued all matter is governed by universal principles, such as what goes up must come down, known as the law of gravity.
However, quantum physics now teaches us that these universal principles only apply to the external physical world, not the internal world – the world of human perception and conscious experience. Quantum physics has introduced us to the idea that how something appears in the outside world is dependant on how the observer perceives it and that each person’s perception is informed by their own unique beliefs and past experiences so that no two people experience the same event in the exact same way. So where your conscious awareness goes, energy follows and then takes form. Therefore, matter only takes form when it is observed.
What this means is, how you perceive something, the beliefs you assign to it and the attention you give it is literally what makes it real. Which gave science to the belief that we are the creators of our own reality. So without your intention, which involves directing your attention towards something, that something fails to exist. Energy takes shape depending on where your focus and intention is directed.
To give you a practical example of this, I’m going to share with you the study that lead scientists to discover this phenomena and gave birth to quantum physics and permanently changed the way we now understand the world.
Okay, strap in because this is where we’re getting geeky.
In order to study light, physicists had to study the structure of atoms which are the building blocks of the universe. Everything, you, me, the device your listening on, the trees outside the window are all made up of atoms. More specifically though, physicists wanted to study the electrons and protons that exist at a subatomic level, subatomic meaning smaller than an atom or occurring within the atom itself.
Now, traditionally in physics, it was always believed that everything followed what are called classical laws, that calculate predetermined outcomes. For example, we use classical physics to predict where a baseball will land when thrown. However, when they went down to a subatomic level they found that the electron didn’t behave according to these classical laws and that rather than the electron appearing where they calculated it would, it instead appeared where they thought it would.
This means simply by observing the electron, this altered the electrons behaviour in ways that could not be measured or predetermined. You see, without an observer, electrons exist in an infinite wave of possibility, meaning that it could be anywhere and anything. But as soon as it was observed, it took form relative to what form the observer thought it would. It took form based on their intention, where they were placing their attention and therefore directing that energy out of the realm of infinite possibility and down into a specific form.
It only appeared because it was being observed!
The same goes for all matter in the universe, it takes form depending on how we think it will take form and this form is entirely dependant on our own perception of reality, which is built upon our past experiences, memories and emotions.
Isn’t that just mind-blowing!
This is why so many of us can get trapped in the same old cycles of attracting the same old experiences, be it accidents, ill health, bad relationships, financial troubles – we are recreating experiences in our own lives that verify our existing ideas and beliefs about the world.
So in a nutshell, energy takes form based on where you are placing your intention. Energy flows where attention goes. So by changing your intention, meaning where you are placing your attention, you manifest a different kind of experience in your life rather than just recreating the same over and over again on autopilot.
This is essentially the science behind the art of manifesting.
Let’s look at a real life example of this. Say you wanted to go to Hawaii, you wanted to so badly. You thought about it all the time, you set your screensaver at work to a photo of the beach, you spent your evenings Googling where you’d love to stay and sites your love to visit. Hawaii became so real in your mind that you could almost feel the sand between your toes and the sea breeze in your hair. Even though you knew you didn’t have the money, it didn’t deter you, you just knew that Hawaii was on the cards one way or another. A few weeks later your best friend calls you saying she’d won a radio competition with a trip for two for an all expenses paid trip to Hawaii and she wanted to gift you the extra ticket. Hawaii had become so real for you, you’d placed such a concrete intention and had dedicated so much of your energy to it that your trip to Hawaii was channelled into form in the way you least expected. This actually happened to a client of mine when we released her abundance blocks and widened her capacity for receiving.
And it sounds pretty simple right? Think about what you want and what you want will come towards you.
Unfortunately, despite much of what people say about manifestation, this isn’t 100% the case.
Your thoughts are the projector, they send the signal out, but it’s your emotions that magnetise the experience back to you.
So thinking positively is not enough if subconsciously you are holding a negative belief that is rejecting the positive thought you are thinking.
So your thoughts are only half of the equation. It’s ultimately the emotion, and how well you can embody that emotion, that determines the quality of the manifestation you are calling in.
To just think it is to only do half of the process and can actually create the exact opposite of what you want because you’re forcing yourself to think something that you fundamentally do not believe. This creates an internal conflict where you are subconsciously rejecting to the exact same extent to which you are desiring. It creates an opposing energetic force where you are pushing it away just as much as you are wanting it.
This is ultimately what a self-sabotage is and through my years of working with clients, this has been at the root of the vast majority of my client’s suffering. The pain of wanting something while also being terrified of having it, not feeling safe to have it or believing that their not worthy of the very thing they crave.
These internal conflicts and self-sabotages are what keep you stuck in a state of “wanting”, which is the opposite of the state of “having”. Manifestation works when your subconscious is aligned towards what you are consciously desiring and the two are working together, which makes you a vibrational match to the desired outcome that you are magnetising towards you.
This creates a state of “having” where you have emotionally, mentally, physically and energetically embodied the experience as if it has already happened. And that’s the key.
Whereas being in a state of “wanting” suggests that you do not yet have the thing you want. Therefore your intention, your focus, is locked onto the “wanting” and because that’s what your intention is amplifying and projecting, and that’s what the universe manifests – more reasons for you to stay in a state of wanting. Which is why in life and business it can feel like your goals are just constantly out of reach no matter how hard you push, struggle and strive.
So if you’re wanting to call higher quality experiences into your life, start to train your body to embody the experience of already having that experience and if your mind brings up resistances to that or you can feel your body go into a physical state of repelling that vibration, such as by feeling anxious, feeling your heart close, feeling physically agitated or restless, or your mind erupt into a chaotic mess of doubt, excuses and negativity then get support from someone who works with the emotional energetic body and the subconscious mind to help you clear those blocks or set to work on clearing them yourself if you have the tools in your toolkit that can help you do that.
But, to be honest, when you’re working with your own belief systems, particularly if they’re connected to a survival emotion or your core sense of identity, then you can spend a lot of time struggling to see the forest through your own mental trees so getting support early can really fast-track your results and save you a whole bunch of emotional energy and frustration.
And this is why I’m not a huge fan of positive thinking just on it’s own. Because often it becomes a way of spiritually bypassing our own emotional experience and denying the lessons those challenging experiences are here to teach you in order to evolve your soul to the next level of receiving.
Because if something is surfacing for you to release but you keep pushing through it or ignoring it because it clashes with the positive thoughts you’re forcing yourself to think, then you’re going to keep going around in circles.
So, if you’ve been thinking positively and saying affirmations until you turn blue but nothing seems to be shifting, then I suggest you try this instead.
Let yourself imagine what you want, notice your body’s natural response to that image – notice any pain, stagnation, tightness or pulling away either energetically or physically, and then be present with that emotion, let it bring up all of the internal BS, all the thoughts, doubts and sabotages that surface when you truly let yourself listen to your own internal experience. Because I can guarantee you it’s happening anyway, all you’re doing is shining the light of awareness on it, which instantly puts it back into your sphere of control.
You can’t heal what you aren’t prepared to see, so let yourself get real with your own experience so you know exactly where you need to focus your healing in order to shift that old energy and release those old beliefs.
The trick here is not to spend too much time sitting in the shit, as it were. Once you know what you’re dealing with, ask yourself what you need to do to release it then set to work on doing the work. That’s how you turn your awareness into your own empowerment, rather than letting the stuff become the reason why you can’t move forward in your life and business.
And so there you have it, a no fluff break down of how manifesting actually works so you can take these ideas out of the whimsical and into the practical to start getting aligned towards the dreams and desires you have for your life and business.
Because I deeply and truly want that for you. You have the power to create incredible things when you give yourself permission to get out of your own way! The world needs you but you’ve got to meet the Universe halfway. And now that you have an understanding of how all this works, you can stop waiting for miracles and become the miracle in your own life.
If this episode has been helpful to you then I’d absolutely love to hear your thoughts on manifesting and your biggest takeaways from this week’s episode. Head on over to blairrhianna.com/5 and leave me a comment on the blog and let’s continue the conversation.
So until next time, that you for joining me for this week’s episode. I’m Blair Rhianna and I can not wait to see you shine your light in the way that only you can.
Bye for now.